Dear Mom New to Transracial Adoption, Fostering, and Parenting

It’s been a decade since we began our parenting journey, and here’s what I want you, someone new to this journey, to know:

You do not have to have it completely figured out, but you do need to be figuring it out.  Your education as a transracial adoptive parent should never stop.  It should continue from now until your dying day. This means not only listening to adoptees and learning about adoption norms (such as how trauma can change the brain, what adoptees need from their parents, etc.) but also about what your child of color needs.  The best people to help you understand this are people who racially match your child.

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