Conversation Starters for Vulnerable Topics

“I want to share something with you, but it’s a really hard thing for me to share. Are you able to hold space for me?”

“I have something I need to talk about with you, but being vulnerable is scary for me. Are you in a place you can hear my heart?”

“I’m working on sharing more of myself with you so we can connect more, but the thought of sharing my feelings feels too vulnerable. Are you in a place you can be calm, patient, & safe for me?”

“I want to feel safe and seen and connected with you, but feel incredibly disconnected…even saying that feels overwhelming and vulnerable. Are you in a space we can talk about this?”

Somewhere along the way I learned that sharing my personal feelings, offenses, or needs was TOO MUCH.

That was only for Jesus. I was told by many former leaders not to expect my husband to understand or know how to “meet my emotional needs,” but I should “never rely on a person for that anyways.”

Well that sure effed up our marriage!

People say vulnerability is my super power & I see what they mean. But if we are talking about up close, intimate relationships? The places (I’d argue) it matters most? 😬

If you’re like me & working on believing + acting like your needs, desires, feelings, opinions MATTER, I have found starting convos out like this is helpful.

Sharing it’s scary & hard and asking if they’re in a place to hold space for you.