Essay: Hard Decisions As A Single Mom

We are packing up our monumental duplex on the corner & moving out.

I’ve been part of a home buying program here in my city & even tho I recorded (& reported) every last penny I brought in last year, it is still not enough when you look at the debt in my name.

I wrote a bit more in detail on my It’s My Birthday Month 🥳 blog page (linked below!), but basically I made the decision to accept my Aunt’s incredibly generous offer to live with her for the next few months.

My kids are VERY excited about the stairs & the carpet & the safe neighborhood to ride their bikes without fear of getting smashed into (literally).

Their nerves are mostly around “are we going to have enough night lights? What if I don’t know how to use her remote? We have to say goodbye to a yard?” But other than that, they see it as a short term adventure with one of the really fun, deeply loving adults in their life.

PLUS their bestie-cousin (same age as them!) lives so close & they hope they get to see her more.

They’ll of course finish out the school year where they’re at & I will miss those morning + afternoon walks.

Moving into this place was HUGE & monumental for us, so it’s bringing me lots of feeeeeeelings.

But overall I’m super hopeful to make a big dent in my tax bill, my other debt, & figure something out with my car :)

I’ve always talked to the boys a lot about using their voice & their voice matters…and I’m finally listening to their voice more clearer than ever before.

There’s a lot going on in our little corner of the world, but it won’t always be so heavy + daunting. And I won’t let myself stay in a place of “woe is me.”

Upward & onward, always rising, even if rising hurts & looks like step backs in the short run.

PS! If you feel like celebrating by supporting my little fam, I wrote a bit of a blog post & ways we’d gratefully welcome support. It is almost my birthday month after all 🥳