Christian + Purity Culture Groomed Me For Abuse
I’d like to make it unendingly clear I do not sit in a posture of shaming those who have shamed me.
I can now see clear as day that Christian purity culture groomed me for unhealthy, dysfunctional relationships, susceptible for abuse. & then carrying the blame + shame.
Christianity set many of us up for unhealth inside marriage.
Is this every Christian-culture-raised person’s story? No.
Is it too many? Yes.
Is it possible many haven’t even processed this could be your story? Of course: because… then what?
The obsession of many of our adolescence was sexual purity & dating to marry.
What do we do now that we’ve woken up to the harmful ways we were taught & the ways it’s really hurt us?
We look at it.
We name it.
We understand, unpack it.
We ask God to show us His heart for intimacy, sex, marriage & partnership, us …individually. We trust the Spirit He gave us.
And then we do better for our kids.
If we are not willing to look at the ways the Bible & God was used to harm us, shame us, abuse us, how will we heal & learn to feel safe with God?
I don’t know about you, but I don’t want my kids to feel the amount of shame I always have, even simply standing naked. Alone. Just me & a mirror.
But also with sex. Sexuality. My body.
I don’t want my boys to believe a woman owes him her body 🤢 or that’s the whole of what she brings him.
My boys will not be told they get a pass on being emotionally intelligent, self aware, & nurturing individuals in a partnership.
If I’m hopeful to raise them this way..it means I better not be settling for these things.
You’re worth more too.
Our kids are watching & listening, their view of the world & relationships are developing and forming.
I’m creating & releasing a free mini series to anyone who wants it. Swipe to see how to get ahold of that.
I don’t claim to have all the answers.
But I am committed to showing up & offering the world what I can, thru my lived experiences, & my journey to wholeness.
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