Understanding Trauma Explosions

Understanding trauma explosions + outbursts is necessary if we want to be good foster + adoptive moms!

I have had the privilege of really experiencing some intensity in this arena for some years. My evenings after the boys go down for bed are 99.9% of the time spent reading books + rewatching videos from Karyn Purvis on YouTube.

I read books for my own trauma and I read books to understand the trauma responses in children. I’ve been to workshops & attended courses & dove deep into understanding this piece of the adoption & foster care world.

At the end of the day, we are all imperfect & mess up. We all misstep & all our lids flip at times. We must hold grace for ourselves & apologize & repair with our kids.

I can’t tell you how many times I told my 9 year old “Hey sis, I’m so sorry I yelled & responded that way. I felt overwhelmed and unable to support you how you need, and my brain caught on fire with yours. I will try to do better tomorrow.” The power in the repair is where so much healing happens, friends.

Read through these slides. We aren’t striving to fix and perfect and shape our kids BEHAVIORS, we are trying to sink beneath their surface with them & help heal the incredibly wounded pieces in them.

A secure parent is one who continues to do their own mental health work; I can’t say that enough.

Im rooting for you, mama!!! I really am! And I can’t express GRACE enough, especially because we’re hitting one year pandemic and all our brains are mush 😅