Thanksgiving 2021

Seems fitting that today —a day families across America gather together— I am spending most of it recording for our podcast which is for divorcees 🖤

@nolongerwepodcast is our IG account but be sure you’ve also entered your email into our subscribe form.

The heart of this podcast is to create a community for other people who are about to, currently in the thick of, or have been through divorce.

Divorce is a different kind of wreckage. It’s also provides a different beast of opportunity for growth & being true.

It became very clear very quickly it is impossible to understand the grief & pain of divorce unless they’ve been through it. Like many traumas & losses.

I’ve had an unconventional, non-boxy, non-traditional journey since my divorce.

But on that clunky journey I’ve worked to be the most honest I can be with myself, discover my own red flags, unpack how I contributed to my marriage ending, & many other things.

I’m not perfect. I don’t have it all together. I’m human, I make mistakes.

But wow, I’m really working on living out the truth that nobody is my enemy.

The big picture i work to keep in mind is: we are all flawed humans doing our best in a broken world, & we tend to bleed our wounds over those around us.

Some things I have been reminding myself:

Bitterness is poisonous: keep it on check in myself. It helps nobody. It is not soothing or healing. It’s ugly & unhelpful.

I can only control me & don’t need anyone’s approval of me. I must continue focusing on being healthier & honoring myself + my kids.

I know the truth of my story & experience; I do not have to explain myself.

Healing is not linear.

I will not be shut down or make myself smaller just because others are feeling uncomfortable. I will be honest & continue to invite others into honesty & healing.

I am so worth loving
& respecting.

Cheers to y’all who are eating turkey 🖤