I adore Loren. I admire him for many reasons: his pursuit and unending love for Jesus, his humility, his grace, his hard-working soul, the way he sacrifices for something bigger than himself, the list could go on. I am sure you admire your husband for some of the same reasons: why would you have married him?
I often tell Loren these things, reminding him how much I appreciate his heart and effort in our marriage. I send notes in his lunch, I text him through the day, and you know what? Sometimes I just stare at him and smile. He will look up from the book he is reading and smile back, offering me to come sit with him. I know it must touch his soul when he sees his woman smiling at him with adoration - who wouldn't be swooned? Loren blesses my heart by doing the same; when I notice he does something continuously that makes me a healthier wife and person, I soon realize I should reciprocate that. Most likely, it will build him up, if he is using it to build me up. Smile at your husband, voice why you appreciate and admire him. Look at him with respectful, appreciative, longing eyes. Think kind thoughts towards him, and always always pray for him. He will see the admiration in your eyes.
Today reflect and internalize this verse: A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from what is in your heart.