Our appearance does not matter most, but that does not imply that it does not matter at all. Men have been created as visual beings and putting a wedding ring on his left finger does not negate that truth. I love what this husband wrote HERE about this:
"If you husband is working hard to avert his eyes from every other sexual source besides his wife, not viewing any porn, not checking out the girl on the billboard, etc - he has a God-given need/desire/appetite to admire his wife’s naked body. I know this may seem strange to you, but it’s true. So, when you’re getting dressed in the morning, or ready for bed at night, don’t try to position yourself so he can’t see those parts of you. It’s ok!"
While Loren and I were dating, I chose very carefully the outfits I picked out when in Boise. I was very aware to dress modestly, but also I wanted to be attractive and cute! Once we were married, I continued the attempt to dress cute but attempted to be a little more, well you know, while at home! I have never been one to even want to show too much, if you know what I mean. In pertaining to dressing to please husband in public, he has thanked me time and time again for dressing beautifully but not promiscuously. He says it is a gift to have a wife keep her body for the husband's eyes.
I love what Jennifer said here, "There may be little chance that I’ll ever be mistaken for a trophy wife, but do I really want to present myself in a way that removes all doubt? After all, the Bible does say that a virtuous wife is a crown to her husband. (Proverbs 12:4) Isn’t a crown a little bit like a trophy?"
Today, let us remember to honor our husbands in the way we dress. Heck, ask him what he likes you to wear! That can never hurt. I love when I am able to honor my husband in public, presentable as beautifully pure, that he may be proud to walk next to me as his wife.
"Looking womanly and behaving sweetly and flirtatiously are gifts wives give to their husbands. This gift communicates that the husband is seen as a man, not just a fix-it guy, the bread-winner, or the sperm donor,” writes Dr. Laura Schlessinger in The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands,
Spruce up for your man! I also want to recognize that there are times and seasons where it is a good day to even be wearing clothes partially clean, and you may not have showered in days but you've brushed your teeth! I applaud you, mamas for your hard work and your love you pour into your babies. Lean into Jesus for strength and pray for wisdom in how to glorify Him most.